why is there a pattern to it?

Why is there this illuminating pattern whereby she arbitrarily get's all fouled up in caprice, and finds trouble with me? Inadvertently? I'm not sure. But it sure gets to me.

It almost seems she's out to find a fault, any fault with me just to please her desire to. Here I am taking all this loads of bullcrap, trying to resolve the issue and substantiate my explanations - which often are useless.

Its not good for us, and I don't want us to be always convalescing from such problems.